Most of you who know me, know that I’ve been working at a porn shop for over seven years. Doesn’t seem like a long time but then again it feels like twenty years. I love my job. Of course there are stressful days at times. Not everyday can be perfect!
One thing that really “grinds my gears” would be when certain couples come in the store. I like to call them the “newbies.” These are the newest forms of relationships. Be it a one-night stand couple, or a couple that has been together for no longer than a year. These younger couples are the ones that typically the male brings them to the store to try and open up their woman more sexually. Which I absolutely encourage! Sex is a necessity for any relationship. It’s fun and healthy. 90% of my customers are men. They often come to the store and ask my advice as to what toy, or lubricant, etc, they should get for their girlfriend. I always say, “it’s up to her, not me. Every woman is different.” That’s a completely true statement. I could try and sell you a rabbit, but if she’s never used a toy before it might seem intimidating at first. So I always tell them to bring their girlfriends in and let them look around and watch them. See what she pays attention to more. See what one she keeps going back to. Then I get a typical response, “she’s scared to come to a store like this.” A store like what? I’ll leave that for another post.
Finally you bring your girl of the week or month in the store. I greet you both and say if there’s anything you need help finding of if you have any questions, please feel free to ask. Then I leave you both to it. Then come the stares. The dirty looks. Not from the man, but from the woman. She stares at me and gives me dirty looks. I have had more women drag their men out of the store and seriously start arguments in front of me at the store. I can only assume that most women think that it’s only men that work at adult book stores. Most women also feel threatened when another woman is around and especially in a shop that is all about sex. Ladies, I do not want your man. I am all set in that department. Even if I was that type of woman to just throw myself at a man who has a girl, I would never try and hook up with someone who is one of my customers. I also want to add that I say it’s younger relationships (young love), because in a mature relationship, a woman is more comfortable in knowing that no other woman would try and come at her man.
So the men are being dragged out of the store. She want’s to leave, so you have to follow her, right? Not in every case I’ve seen. I have heard men tell their women to “go sit in the damn car” and wait. That always makes me laugh. Only if it’s expressed a certain way. I believe if you’re going to curse a man out, he has every right to treat you the same way in return. The other men that do leave with their women always look so frustrated. Ladies you have to understand that your man is trying to help you. To help you both. Spice things up. Open up your mind to bigger ideas. When you go to sex shops do not be threatened by whoever’s behind the counter. Also do not be intimidated by the advice and experience the worker has.
The ladies that do stay around and do ask for advice always leave happy. I’ve helped I can probably say at least a thousand, or damn near close to, find the perfect toy, massage oil, lingerie, or movie.
That’s it. That is my job, to help you. I am not trying to “show off” in front of your man. I may have more experience and knowledge on certain things. That doesn’t make me a bad person. I have the up-most respect for you and your man when you walk through the front door.
Finally to end this rant of sorts, I still do encourage men to bring their women to sex shops. Men, if you have already been to the store maybe it might be a good idea to let your girl know that you’ve checked out the place and you feel that she will be comfortable there and you will both enjoy shopping together. Surprisingly a lot a women have never stepped foot in a sex shop. Warm them up to the idea and bring them in. Whoever is there will always be willing to help you out, or let you browse without being hovered over.
And as always, comments are always appreciated! -xoxo-