His first toy


The photo above is the Egg stroker from Tenga.  They’re small, fit right in the palm of your hand and are disposable.  It’s a pretty popular product at our store.

Today I helped a guy pick out his first masturbator.  He came in and was looking around for a while. He was a younger guy, I’d say around 20-21.  I watched him pick up and set down over 15 different toys.  I approached him and asked if he needed any help.  He was a little hesitant at first.  He said he’s never bought a toy before and heard about the strokers, but didn’t know what was a good product.  I went down the line of them all and explained pros and cons of each.  He thanked me and said he would look around some more.  So I backed off and gave him his space.  He called me over a few minutes later and he said he couldn’t decided between a Tenga product or a pocket pussy.  Eventually he chose the Tenga stroker and then I asked if he needed any lubricant.  Again, another thing he’s never purchased before.  He wanted to know what most people bought.  The most popular lube we sell is Wet.  He kept eyeing the warming one, and I asked if he’s ever used a warming one before to which he answered no.  I told him that most people say it’s a little intense at first.  His eyes widen with curiosity and he said he definitely wanted to try it.  I rang up his purchases and watched him run to his car.  I’m sure he couldn’t wait to get home to try it.

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(The photo above is not mine and belongs to Exxxotica.com)

Summer of 2010 is when I first learned about Exxxotica. Thanks to Twitter and a boring day at work.  It also helps to follow a few porn stars.  I seen one tweet about a porn star appearing at a expo and it was going to be in Edison, New Jersey.  I immediately looked up the website and was so excited to learn that it’s a traveling porn convention.  I have never been able to make it out to Vegas for the big shows and finally here comes an event close to home.
I attended the November 2010 expo.  It was held at a convention center.  Exxxotica is a three day event, Friday through Sunday.  I only went to Friday’s show and to be honest, one day is more than enough!  As soon as you walk in the room you’re greeted by a woman or two, dressed in sexy bikini clad outfits paired with fishnets and super tall heels, handing out plastic bags for you to use for any goodies you end up purchasing.  There are pink and black banners everywhere.  Music blaring.  Camera’s flashing.  You don’t really know where to start!
As you walk through you see lots of small booths throughout the room.  Here and there you’ll see free standing stripper poles with a few girls dancing around, and taking pictures with the guests.  There’s a huge swing with a hot model or two playing on it.  There is a schedule posted on a wall of all the events that will take place on each day the expo is there.  I advise you to know the schedule and plan out your day there.  In between the down time when there isn’t a seminar or a stage show going on, it is then usually the best time to check out the booths.

The first star I got to meet was Alexis Ford.  I was extremely nervous!  Yes, they’re just normal people, but when you have only seen them in a certain state to then in front of you it’s almost unreal.  After getting a photo with her and having her sign some things I brought along, I was definitely more relaxed and ready to handle the rest of the day.  I then went on to meet Jenna Haze, Lexington Steele, and the legend Ron Jeremy!  One thing you should know is that 90% of the stars you meet do charge for buying and signing photos/dvds and also charge for taking pictures with them.  And everything is cash only, so make sure you have enough cash on hand.  Pictures usually cost anywhere from $15-$20 depending on what the star is charging.  What I thought was really cool is some of the stars bring Polaroid cameras in case you don’t have a camera with you!  When there is event going on on stage you definitely should check it out.  They’re always fun.  Be it a bunch of girls up there shaking their ass, tossing out freebies, or the stars taking questions, or little competitions/demonstrations, Exxxotica definitely puts on a good show.  At the end of the night my cheeks were pink. I was very flushed from all the excitement.

With that said, my second time was just as good.  I went to the expo held in Atlantic City, New Jersey of April 2013.  It was at the Trump Taj Mahal casino & hotel.  This time around I felt like a veteran.  I knew who was going to be attending.  I was really excited to meet Gianna Michaels, Jynx Maze, and James Deen.  I was also excited to meet with Michael Fattorosi who is a lawyer to the stars.  All the stars are very nice, and down to earth.  It was fun to see others experience what I experienced the first time.

I received a lot of comments from people on social media saying that I was “so lucky” to go.  You can be “lucky” too.  It’s open to the public. Check out their website for information.

One thing you should be aware of is the price on the web and the price at the expo for tickets may be different.  I noticed online for general admission the prices were listed as 45-60$ and once I got there it was a firm price of 60$.  And that wasn’t an online only price.  They also have a VIP admission (around 70-80$) and with that you receive a free shoulder bag that’s filled with little goodies and specials for going to after parties with the stars.  Also, all the girls who are dancing on the poles are working on tips.  So if you want them to pose for a picture or take a picture with them you do have to tip.  Be generous!

You may wonder why you have to pay the stars for a picture or autograph and that’s because they are there to work.  I’m sure if the event paid for each of them to appear, tickets for admission would be sky high.

Another tip for newbies is that even if your favorite star is supposed to be there, always confirm their signing times.  They may only be there for a few hours a day or only on certain days. Some people were quite disappointed that certain stars weren’t at their booths when they would stop to see them.

Everything expressed here is my own view on my experience to the expo.  To truly experience it you have to go to an event.  Although I’ve been told it doesn’t compare to the shows held in Vegas, for those of us who can’t make it out there, it’s a pretty damn good substitute.



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For pictures of the event you can check out Exxxotica’s website and Facebook page.


“This type of stuff”




I’ve been pondering the sentence “this type of stuff” all day.  I had an older gentleman today buy a few toys.  He was asking what batteries each toy took and so on, and told me that his girlfriend is new to “this type of stuff”.  I’ve heard this several times in the past seven years I’ve been at the store.  I can’t help to wonder why women are so new to purchasing and using toys.  When I hear that phrase it becomes frustrating, because it seems people are too sheltered.  

Now what is this type of stuff they’re referring to?  I can not answer that.  Is it the environment?  The content?  Do they feel they will be judge by those in the store?  To me, it’s like going to a department store.  You’re there for a purpose, and hopefully that purpose is pleasure.  In my opinion, if you’re having sex, you should not be embarrassed by objects at a adult bookstore.  Sex is natural.  Sex is a part of life.  So what is wrong with talking about it, and or, being around it?  When shopping at a sex shop, no one is forcing you to purchase anything you are not wanting to purchase.  I’ve been asking around and most people agree with me.  I did have one opinion that made sense to me.  Even though a couple may be sexually active, they may not have ever used toys or watched porn while in the act.  So therefore they would be nervous/intimidated to walk into a sex shop.

Personally, I’ll never forget my first trip to a adult bookstore.  I remember the first toy I bought.  I was 18.  My friends and I were finally at the age to where we were allowed to go to porn shops.  Most of us were already sexually active, so we were excited to see what was out there.  It was pretty intimidating at first.  Besides getting weird looks from the men that were browsing the store, seeing all the novelties was amusing to us.  I remember all I could think about was what the hell to buy.  I didn’t know the difference between any of the toys at the time.  I thought they all did the same thing.  The guy behind the counter was older and not that friendly looking, so I didn’t dare approach him for any help.  I was looking at the vibrators and I seen a cute straight pink one.  It was $17.99 and being a broke college kid at the time, it was in the perfect price range for me.  I was the only one out of my group of friends to buy something.  And I was ridiculed of it.  Which even back then, I didn’t know why it was such a big deal to them.  I they weren’t looking to buy anything, I couldn’t figure out why we even had stopped there then. I brought it up to the register.  The clerk asked if I needed batteries, and I remember blushing because my friends were laughing when he said that.  I politely said no, handed him the cash, and I was on my way.  That was my first experience with buying and using a toy.  I had never found it to be odd, or wrong.  If anything I think it’s great for women to keep at least one in her house. 

In this day and age I would think people would be more open sexually and not think of adult bookstores as a taboo or a dirty book store.  Like I’ve said in a previous post, it is a fun environment.  No intimidation or judgement.  The people who work at these stores now are very friendly and willing to help you out if needed.  And if you’re that nervous, I suggest browsing the internet and checking things out before you head out to your local sex shop.  That way you know what to expect when you walk in.  Become familiar with it and have fun with it!  


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